What is GOOD Sex?!Dec 09, 2022
“HARD DICKS. SOAKING WET PUSSIES. HOURS OF THRUSTING FOLLOWED BY AN EXPLOSION OF CUM AND SQUIRT AND ENDLESS ORGASMS!”
Hold up a sec.
Society has this large fascination on how the presence of and intensity of an orgasm equates to “good sex”.
Making the GOAL of sex as orgasm can really kill the mood! When you’re thinking about how you’re performing, or how you feel you need to make your partner orgasm, or how your partner’s lookin’ a little fatigued so you MUST will yourself to orgasm in the next 20 seconds or you think they’re going to pass out but then all that pressure derails your orgasm and then when they do come back to life after passing out, they’ll feel utterly disappointed that they couldn’t make you cum and now both parties are feeling unfulfilled.
What’s the common denominator?
Orgasms start in the brain. Sex isn’t just about the act. It is also about the connection. Sometimes the stress from your expectations can override feelings of connection. The feelings of CLOSENESS and INTIMACY and RESPECT for one another are grounds for emotional connection. Famed relationship researchers, John and Julie Gottman, who have researched more than 3,000 couples over four decades, have identified that couples with the most fulfilling sex lives take deliberate time each day to show love, affection, and emotional connection regardless of sexual orientation.
Little things often. Like little Lego pieces each and every day adding to the foundation of your relationship. STRONG foundation = STRONG emotional connection = MORE FULFILLING SEX!
Making the simple shift of CONNECTION rather than ORGASM as the goal of sex takes the pressure off of having to act out a fucking AVN worthy performance or risk shame and places the focus on each other instead.
Don’t make the goal the finish line. Explore the trails. Appreciate the scenery. Smell the flowers. Feel the trees.
You’ll get to the finish line feeling way more than accomplished ;)
Because the best things in life make you sweaty.